November 23rd, 2004
Bostonians are a cold bunch.
In the ~3 months that I've been here, and commuting to my job, i have walked by innumerable people on the street. I have given at least a small smile and/or friendly nod to probably %75 of them, if not more. It's just who I am. I'm a friendly fucker.
I have received recognition of my existance precisely twice.
one person smiled back and looked quickly away.
The other person, an older man cleaning the street, actually said "good morning" and gave me a fairly genuine smile. I didn't know how to respond, I was that out of practice. I managed to fumble something off my tounge, like a small furry ball of noise. He smiled, and went back to sweeping.
What is it with this city? Is it just the northeast in general? Even Philly was better than this, people would smile and say hi, good morning, or whatever. Hell, even the people in the same building as us here (all 3 other apartments) will scarcely spare me a 'hello' if we meet on the stairs.
Not so much crotchety as reserved. It just seems odd when a complete stranger says hello. *shrug*
You're one of em!
*wiggles finger accusingly*
|Date:||November 23rd, 2004 07:46 am (UTC)|| |
I completely agree! It seems so sneaky and suspicious to avoid people's eyes. I don't understand why a smile can't be returned with another smile, or even a nod of the head. It's so weird.
preach is sistah!
I'm glad someone agrees with me...
You think theyd be happier after the wolrd series, but I guess not.
Go to New York. It's friendly despite the rumors.
meh. it's also big and scary to a little country boy like me.
|Date:||November 23rd, 2004 08:48 am (UTC)|| |
Word. I am from Texas, but have lived up here for the past 5 years or so - I pretty much FORCE people to say hi to me - especially in Boston - it's colder than NYC.
But you look em in the eye, and you proclaim "Hi, how are you!?" and they will be puzzled sure, but screw em. They'll learn to love it.
New York is friendlier than Beantown. I live on Sesame Street, I swear. And I know most of my neighbors.
My friends and I call it "The North Face." They all have their North Faces on, and it can be kind of sour, but they're just so cute and pasty!
you leave us poor pasty folk alone, ya hear?
My sister lives on Maui, I went out there last winter and her mother-in-law saw me and went "Oh! Ry! you're so WHITE!"
And then I was red instead of white. ^_^
i mean, grumpy making, but good that I'm not insane.
|Date:||November 23rd, 2004 08:57 am (UTC)|| |
it's no fun, i tell you.
at least in my building, we say hi when we run into people.
I think we just got a grumpy crew. heh.
It's not a "New England" thing. I grew up in Scituate, MA, where you acknowledged with a smile, nod, and even a "Hello" or "Hi" every person you passed on the street while walking. I moved to Cambridge for college and it took a while to break myself of the habit, and I never did entirely. I still smile at the people I walk past in Davis Square and Harvard Square. New Englanders are simply taught to be wary of strangers, especially men, in big cities (I got a "talk" on not being too friendly from numerous adults before I moved to Cambridge). Besideswhich, if you try to say "hello" to every person you walk by in Harvard Square or Davis, you'd *never* be quiet! There's just too many people to acknowledge them all!
this is true, but at 6:30 in the morning when you're the only two people on the whole street?
|Date:||November 23rd, 2004 10:01 am (UTC)|| |
To quote my friend Caitlin from years past, "Screw these Northerners and their freaking personal bubbles!!"
It's less of a problem out here in SF, but everyone seems to be thinking about something else other than walking on the sidewalk. A city full of dreamers and sky-watching idealists, I guess.
*suddenly wonders what our percentage of manhole-related deaths and injuries is*
man, I'd really like to see someone just walk along and disappear down a manhole. I'd bust a nut laughing.
I managed to fumble something off my tongue, like a small furry ball of noise Wow, beautifully written, Ry. :)
I think that it's easier for women to get ack'd than men, but keep at it and hopefully you'll crack through thus pedestrians' gaze.
Dude, like you've ever lived anywhere other than the northeast. :-p
Personally, I hate eye contact anyway. It's creepy.
|Date:||November 24th, 2004 12:01 am (UTC)|| |
dude, i was JUST thinking about this today while in NYC (which I have come to love/love in recent years, after having grown up an hour train-ride away and having a love/hate thing for it -- leaning on the hate side -- for most of that time). I'd agree with the others who say NYC is warmer than Boston, but still, I kept getting the sense that I had ...just...missed... a shared glance or acknowledgement, perhaps this is like the flicking/darting eyes that oceanic
mentioned in reference to SF...
i think when you've got so many people in such a small space, like in NYC or Boston, both on the generally-crowded northeast coast, you have to kind of save your energy for the people that really matter. Philly and San Fran aren't as densely populated, and there's the sense of the wilds of PA further west, or the Pacific ocean, and I do think both places are a little warmer than NYC. Especially West Philly! And the Castro/Mission! yay!
|Date:||November 24th, 2004 12:02 am (UTC)|| |
oh and I was also thinking that the Boston area might have more WASPs per square mile than other cities, and WASPs are snotty.