July 16th, 2001
Long time no posts...
Currently have about 120 posts to catch up on, i've just been taking an LJ sebatical I guess you could say.
Things are going ok, not much to report on.
I just posted this in smileywageslave's journal. Thought I'd post it in mine too as it's something I've thought a lot about.
Written stream-of-consciousness style, so deal with it. ;o)
Comments greatly appreciated, looking forward to catching up with you all.
What I wanted to comment on is this whole thing with male anger always being percieved as violent. As you said, you've only ever hit someone once, and he was an asshole guy. Yet your wife (currently still married, yes?) was cowering from you as if you would hit her.
There seems to be some kind of social conditioning in the US, most likely other countries as well, which makes us believe that men get violent when angry. Personally I'm more scared of her when she's angry than I would be of any of my male friends, but I grew up without a television so perhaps I'm not representative of the population at large...
music: Born slippy remixes
I missed ya, Ry Strohmboli.
I betcha wear a suit now. :(
Here's a thought. Could it be projection? It struck me when you said your girlfriend hits you out of anger. I've complained to Rebekah many times because she does the same thing. She'll smack me, elbow me, hit me in the chest or arm. She's not trying to do damage, but it's still a violent act, and can result in some pain.
Maybe because she reacts with that sort of violence, she expects it from others.
Or it could just be a common perception male anger tends to result in violence.
Gotta appreciate being psychoanalyzed in a semi-public space. If you insist on using me as an example, at least explain that there's been incidents in my past, unrelated to you, which bolstered any social brainwashing i may have recieved by watching sesame street, ok?
makes me wanna hit things... hmmm...
it's sAbatical, and clumsIness.=P